Just read a thing about how female entrepreneurs have a much harder time gaining funds from venture capitalists and how the profile of the successful entrepreneur needs to change. And OMG I completely agree, as the avid follower of all the amazing leading people in the start up world.
Then I looked into it, watching how a curious minority of women are basically leading start ups. And thought to myself, I have intense faith in how women work; my mum works like crazy; women that I know around me are hard working, and I attract amazing work ethics in people so if I had a grand or more to lend a start up, and saw a woman had spectacular results in a field lacking innovation, I would probably give it and some moral support.
Then I asked myself, is this because I am biased as a woman, who sees how much more as a female, we must work in order to achieve something? Not to say there isn’t opportunity for achievement, more that prejudices and victimizations happen everywhere. Would I see and think differently as a guy?
This zoomed into how I was raised and how I saw women around me work, and men’s attitudes towards it. Then to test my thoughts, I asked mum if she would have changed anything in the way she raised me as a guy. (Hint: Ukrainian background means lots of potential changes, but to be fair my grandmother wanted my mum’s brother to know the same amount of domestic work as my mum so I’m not on the average scale here folks)
And so we have hilarious (for post soviet attitude) feedback: one thing my mum told me she would have changed if I were male, was the ballet I went to; it would have been soccer. Reason? She would be worried I’d turn homosexual as ballerino.
You can imagine my head spun with like, 4 arguments against such a perception. Briefly:
1.. I did loads of ball tosses in high school, played badminton and Frisbee. 2. Doesn’t the royal Russian ballet whats its face academy do male ballerino’s in their productions? Someone has to dance, pick up and support those ballerinas. 3. I am definitely the most athletic cousin in the family. 4. My dad always made me do hardcore stuff when I was growing up: pull ups on a sturdy iron bar like 2.5 meters high near a beach park, fast walks through the park at night, … good god my parents were always going somewhere and doing something. By the time I had my first boyfriend at university, the idea of “just sitting” at the beach was seriously foreign.
And the other thing, dad reckons he would have played guns with me if I was a boy. Which mum claims is ridiculous because by the time my uncle visited us and I was almost 10, dad was saying “look at that weirdo running around with kids with a gun. Pfff” and mum and her girlfriends rolled their eyes. (Hint; it was at a water park). P.s. I miss my uncle.
So actually I have a fairly unbiased point of view when it comes to women, leadership and work. In fact thanks to what I’ve seen of guys in the west and east, I KNOW girls have to try harder to achieve things just because it’s not really expected that girls have to achieve a lot. Either that or adding work on top of domestic work, we get no mention and no credit, no “raised eyebrows”.
To illustrate this, in Kate Winslet and Jude Law’s movie “The Holiday” the widower with 2 girls says “I have to knit and do things for the girls in my spare time” Mum: “yeah right that’s mandatory motherhood, and he’s saying that’s crazy extraordinary? Pfff”.
Back to my point, I totally support a good idea when I hear one. And secondly, who can tell me what to do with my money? Thirdly, watch out – women and minorities are going to be hiring you for work soon!
We are not the traditional breadwinners and say what you will but traditions are hard to kill. Perhaps that will be our mission as millennials.. challenge the status quo.
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